“Again within the Market” – Free Session from Christy Sanborn
I’ve been divorced for a couple of years now and think I’m ready to find a new partner. I’m not familiar with the whole online dating thing. Do you have any suggestions on how to get involved? I am new to the whole concept.
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Back on the market
Dear back on the market,
First of all, how exciting! What a great feeling to be ready for a new relationship. I am a big fan of the online platform. I actually met my husband on an online dating site! (A lot of fish)
First of all, you want to create a profile for yourself. The easiest way to do this is to take a pen and paper and sit quietly somewhere. Make sure you can devote about an hour to this process. I want you to draw a line down the middle of the page. Write on one side: “What I’m looking for.” On the other side you write: “What I’m not looking for.” This is so important when looking for a partner. It is important that you take the time to really ask yourself what kind of person do I want? Do your best to be exactly what you are looking for and what is not. This process is very similar to finding a home to buy. The more clearly you know what you want, the faster you will find it.
Most people have an idea of what they want, but it’s not very clear. My list when I had one (10 years ago) was crystal clear. For example, you might want a man who has been married before, but you are not ready to bow down to a man who lives with his mother. Put that on the list. Big, small, spiritual, physically fit, funny, generous, smart, bald, exc.
Make the list and keep adding. When you’re done, check it out and make a bio out of it and post it on your profile page. It is very attractive to potential dates to see what you are looking for. This saves time for your potential data as they read this. Put this paper on your fridge so that you will be looking at it all the time every day. The reason you want to do this is because knowing what you want makes it easy to tell when you finally see it. When you find this person, you know they match.
Just one thing. Choose 3 current pictures of you. Some may be with other people and one of just you. Try not to post pictures of you with your kids when you have them. Someone wants to meet you, not your kids (yet).
Once you’ve published your profile and pictures, you’re good to go! This is a fun way to meet new people you might never meet otherwise. Be picky, be yourself and have fun. And remember, you will absolutely find what you are looking for if you know what you are looking for.
All the best,